Saturday, September 17, 2005

Just thinking about my previous post and wondering: what other paths might you have followed in life? Do you ever think about changing direction? How would you go about it?

5 comments:

Maidink said...

I am an unswerving believer that where you are is where you are meant to be.

But like any other curious person, I do wonder ...

I was offered a full paid scholarship to art school at 17. Turned it down. I almost married my high school sweetheart. My mother ran away with a man and I almost went to TX at the age of 10. He chickened out in the end. I know that wasn't of my choosing but it would have affected the outcome of my current life. I almost settled done with my girlfriend ten years ago, but I chose to wait a year. She couldn't wait. I never heard from her again.

I've done many stupid moves in my 37 years. I've probably done a lot of really neat things; alas, we normally remember the bad before the good. I often wonder why that is.

Merci said...

Maidink,
I wonder about that, too, a lot. Is it because we worry about how other people see us, and we expect them to focus on the negative, so we do too? Don't know.

PaxRomano said...

Ah Merci,
Aint mid-life grand? A time when we wonder what might have been...

I made a lot of really stupid choices in my life, and yet, I always managed to avoid real catastrophe.

I think, if I could, I'd go back to that time when my best friend asked me to move out to Colorado with him - I had the chance to go to school at University of Colorado in Boulder - A lot of things would have been really different. Had I taken my buddy up on his offer; I would have had a place to live, a job at a small local newspaper and a chance at unique future – but, I was young and scared and could fathom moving half way across the country to a whole different life with no support system.

Then again, had I made that move, I would never know people like you and Zelda – so, ultimately, I guess I made the right choice.

Merci said...

Pax,
Wow! Colorado! Can't get much different from NJ. I went to school in Indiana, which was a very bold step for me, but I never found the courage to stay there after graduation. I think Maidink is right, in the end, we're where we are supposed to be. I treasure my friendships here, and I wouldn't have met my husband in IN, so I am happy.

I'm glad you stayed.

Zelda Parker said...

I am glad that you both are a part of my life. (See Friday's post). I think that we do have to make some changes from time to time or they will be imposed upon us anyway. As for mistakes, "I know I've made a few....but I did it my way." So Pax and I will continue to "stir the pot" from time to time. That keeps life interesting!XOXO